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Sex outside marriage is sinful and it is
called fornication. The Bible has 53 verses on fornication. Of all sins,
fornication (pre-marital sex) is the only sin we sin against our body.
The Bible clearly forbids sex outside
marriage.
Sex is the real joining together, it is
from God. Sexual activities in a relationship affects real intimacy.
1st Thessalonians chapter 4:3 “For this is the will of God even your sanctification
that you should abstain from fornication, everyone of you should know
how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour”. Fornication will
hinder you from enjoying the real purpose of sex. God is not saying that sex is
evil, God is for you, he is never against you, the only person that loves you
thoroughly and truly is God. If he says you should abstain from fornication in
your relationship, he’s saying it so that you can enjoy the sincere benefit of
sex. There is nothing written in the Bible to benefit God, the Bible is the
manual for life and it is written for our good. If the creator of sex says you
shouldn’t have it outside marriage, he has a purpose for that.
Sex is for your enjoyment, but it is to be
enjoyed only within the covenant of marriage. Sex weaken/ kills a
relationship outside marriage, it doesn’t solidify it.
It is clearly stated here that you don’t
own your body, it is of the Holy Ghost. I beg you brothers and sisters, sexual
immorality is like a sugar-coated poison, you enjoy the first few sugar-coated
parts, but the inside is poisonous. You must never encourage sex in your
relationship if you aren’t married to the person.
AS A SINGLE PERSON
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Sexual
activities in a relationship prevent judgements. Many single people have not
been able to make a right decision in marriage because of fornication. Anytime
you sleep with someone outside marriage, you can’t make a meaningful decision
about that person. When you commit fornication, you are joined with the person.
Sex is like cement mixed with stone to solidify a foundation. It is meant to be
done only within the covenant of marriage, anything outside this will destroy
you. In God’s eye, the real joining between a man and a woman is the sex. So
when you start fornicating, you are destroying that cement, how many people
will you ‘cement’ with before you get married? Cement that has been used can’t
serve its purpose again. Please, be careful.
“If
you love me, show it and have sex with me” Honey, if a guy tells you this,
ask the guy, Harlots sleep with people on daily basis and they are not in love
with them? Men go to clubs to pick girls and have sex with them, are they in
love? Sex and love to a man are two different things. If he can’t wait for you
till the night of your wedding, he doesn’t deserve you. True love can wait. If
he loves you, he will wait for you and respect your opinion. God’s words
supersedes human thought/ opinion.
The more you have sex outside marriage,
the emptier you become. Please note ‘the
next time you open your leg, you are opening your soul’.
Listen, real intimacy cannot come from
sex, it comes from honesty, sincerity, openness, purpose and truth, sex doesn’t
bring real intimacy, it destroys the relationship. Sex is an undue influence in
a relationship.
Ladies listen, the day you allow him sleep
with you, you are almost a completed project. The moment sex is introduced, its
going to be difficult for intimacy to grow.
Check the story of Amnon and Tamar, he was
on fire for her, but the moment he slept with her, he hated her so much
afterwards that he couldn’t even touch her, he had to tell his guard to push
her not. “2 Samuel chapter 13”.
The body is like a beast, it can’t be
born-again, the moment you train it to eat something, it continues in it.
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When
you start fornicating or having sex before marriage, it is a pointer to a weak
character. They might never change. Marriage don’t change people. If he/she is
pressurizing you for sex before marriage, he/ she will cheat even in marriage.
It is called “Character Flaw”. Allow intimacy to grow not sexual attraction.
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Lastly
if you continue in fornication, all the unwanted (Diseases, Babies) may come
in, so be careful, don’t displease God to please any man/woman. If he can wait
till marriage, he/she doesn’t deserve you.
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EXPERIENCE: You will be told
that you need the experience so you won’t be a first-timer when you get
married. It’s a lie of the devil. The real experience you need is the
one you have with your spouse. The immoral experience doesn’t count when you
are married.
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COMPATIBILITY: ‘If
we don’t commit fornication, how do we know we are sexually compatible?”
Listen Ladies/Gentlemen, you don’t need to fornicate to know if you are
compatible. Real sexual compatibility develops gradually and comes with love.
If you are spiritually compatible, you will be sexually compatible. You don’t
need to fornicate to determine compatibility.
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“If you are a virgin, you are a small girl/boy” It’s a big lie,
it’s more cool to be a virgin, to live a pure and Holy life. What is the hurry
for? If he truly loves you, he will allow you to keep your virginity till your
wedding night. Ladies, I beg you in the name of Jesus Christ, don’t be
deceived, keep your body in chastity, If he loves you, he will wait for you.
Fornication will
reduce a man to a piece of Bread. It’s better to be a small girl/boy in purity
than a big girl/boy in sin”
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Lastly,
If the guy/ lady you are in a relationship with is telling you times have
changed, we are in modern age, kindly tell him/her that time hasn’t changed,
STI and STD’s have not changed and the word/standard of God can’t change.
Sexual immorality is a star extinguisher,
develop your spiritual life, pray with whoever you are in a relationship with,
commit your ways to God, draw strength from God, and stand on God’s word.
For the sake of this teaching, let me
quickly tell you this, This is not a message of condemnation, God never condemns
anyone, Yes, you can feel bad and change your ways but he will never condemn
you. People can condemn you, Devil will condemn you but God will never condemn
you.
God’s status is “God is love”, He loves you, he has paid a high price for you, he wants
you, he said “come unto me all ye that are burdened and heavy ladened, I will give
you rest”. He loves you, just give him a chance in your life and enjoy
a life of total victory. Live a sexual pervert free life. God bless you.
On a parting note: This is wisdom, If
you aren’t ready to get married, don’t go into a relationship” Don’t tempt the
Devil.
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Thank you for putting up this blog. You guys are doing a great job, keep it up! I just have few comments to the topic. Kudos to Mr Ihidero, he sure knows the subject and has demystified the almighty SEX.
ReplyDeleteOur society is suffering from too much sex, it's everywhere and it's available even for free. The values of the society has been eroded. Those we look up to as role models often disappoint as they lack character and integrity. How do we get our value system in place again? How were they able to do it back then when men were boys and virginity was a thing of pride?
Like the speaker said, the bible has not changed even though the world keeps changing!
Izu Madubobi | Effector
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Thanks Izu, for your contribution to the topic aformentioned above, it is quite a good thing to have a group of young minds coming together to share ideas and thoughts that can fiurthermore make us all a better person in the society at large.
ReplyDeleteNice point once again