My biggest achievement in my almost 12years counseling experience is being able to change wrong mindsets.
Yes, my job is to help young people master their sexuality, and I minister Sexual Healing through Spoken Words.
But it’s impossible for people to master their sexuality and receive healing when their mindset is wrong. Breaking up is never easy but I have to go…. Knowing you
, knowing me it’s the best I can do. –ABBA
The song by ABBA seems so true to many young people who claim to love their partner but can’t continue with them. It’s like being attracted to a person but unable to bond with them because of one or many factors.
My name is Earl, and I am Alright. Welcome to the #AlrightsPassion Tuesdays’ Social Media Hang Out with me, #EarlAlright. Every Tuesday is the #AlrightsPassion #PrayingTuesday when our counselors and partners pray for your love life.
The Alright’s Passion MISSION is helping teens, singles and married with sex and relationship issues through diverse means. And our VISION is providing Christian counseling for teens, singles and married on sex and relationship.
I agree with E.W. Kenyon that "Man is a spirit, he has a soul, and lives in a physical body". It’s more correct than just say that we are tripartite (3-in-1); spirit, soul and body. This is because when a person dies, we say s/he is gone even when the body is present. But for the purposes of today’s gist, allow me, to treat man as 3-in-1.
Therefore, for us to bond completely, romantically with another person, it has to be in body, soul and spirit.
Mind you, I said TO BOND, not TO BECOME ONE (Genesis 2:24), because we can never be one spirit with another person (see 1Corinthians 6:16-17). To become one spirit with another person will imply marriage after death and the Bible doesn’t agree with such theology. In fact, death brings to end, the contract of marriage (See 1Corinthians 7).
To clear your doubt about the meaning of romance, see later CAN CHRISTIAN SINGLES ROMANCE?
Romance doesn’t mean to be sexually involved with the person. It is to express “hormonal love”. The first level of romantic bonding is PHYSICAL, which is physical, sexual/chemical attraction. In this realm, love at first sight is true and possible. You see the person and whoops, you’re swept off romantically.
The song with the lyrics “it’s amazing how you knock me off my feet” becomes so true and real. You love what you see. Being physically attracted and attractive to your romantic partner is essential for a relationship to last long.
Have you realized that nobody married an “ugly” person in the Bible? because they all married their physical taste. It was only Jacob that had an “ugly” babe (in his eyes) forced down his throat. See Genesis 29:16-17, 22-27.
In the realm of physical attraction, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, not in the eyes of friends, family or public. In this realm, "Lekpa" meaning Slim could be gold and "Orobo" meaning "Fat" could be diamond.
Counselors insist that you must find your partner physically and sexually attractive to enjoy the relationship. Not like every time o. But you should from time to time feel tempted to want sex with your partner because of his/her looks.
If she/he isn’t fine, you’ll lose boldness to walk with her, use her face as DP or have a photo of her on your desk. As it applies to ladies, so also it is for men. I remember mum saying l love my babe because of her vital statistics. Before nkor?
The second level of Romantic Bonding is SOULISH; mentally/intellectually, emotionally and “purposely”. Remember the soul, psychology says, is made up of the mind (seat of logic), will (seat of passion) and emotions (seat of feelings). It is actually in this 2nd level and also in the 3rd that most singles have tough issues to settle with.
There are people who easily bond physically but who feel that your IQ is just too low for them. So sorry, I am even one; most professionals like lawyers, doctors and the like usually have this complains.
People who read a lot or are well exposed usually face this trauma and depression too; partners not matching up. Your vocabulary and ascent is very, very important to them. The rule of always have something intelligent to contribute applies. The best way to match-up with them is read wide and expose yourself by travelling and meeting people. I’ve met 2 girls who find boys that don’t like and can’t discuss football unattractive. To them, I’m ugly. ***Crying...
Beyond IQ, every person and organization is now also concerned about your emotional intelligence. This is my major concern too.
How much do you lead your emotions? Do you get angry easily? Easily cry? Easily get depressed? Do you easily fall in and out of love with people? Can you hold an argument without making it a fight? Do you know the deference between feelings and logic? Do you know how to express or hide the appropriate or wrong feeling?
Some people bond easily physically and intellectually but usually find emotional bonding a hell. Why? Because a party is yet to let go of the past or the other allows feelings supersede logic. Unbalanced Jealousy, low self-esteem, anger are examples of feelings that could ruin a beautiful relationship.
Some people just find it so easy to crush on people even when in a relationship and it’s not nymphomania or satyriasis.
Apart from reading LEADING YOUR EMOTIONS later, you’ll need to go get books on Emotional Intelligence.
Bonding of passion, drives and purpose is another realm of romantic bonding under this SOULISH level. Some people’s will is so rude, not because they’re choleric. And others are so slow not that they’re phlegmatic. It’s in this realm that pastors, counselors and friends ask if you share the same dreams and purpose with him/her.
So, in the SOULISH realm, bonding has to be intellectual, emotional and passionate.
The last, but definitely not the least of romantic bonding is in the level of the spirit. Remember that I’ve established that you can’t be one spirit with any person but only with God. See 1Corinthians 6:16-17
Contrary to popular beliefs, sex doesn’t bond/tie spirits but bodies. Thank God for oxytocin! Sex can’t even bond souls but can give room for soul ties. The more time you spend with the person, the closer you become. You may want to see some Scriptural references: 1Corinthians 15:13, Psalm 1:1-3, Proverbs 1:10, Matthew 16:6-12.
However, religious orientation and affiliations makes it easier to bond with another in the soul realm. That’s why it’s easier to talk about God with someone of your church than any other person who although is a Christian, is not a member of your Church. And because our religious affiliations determine our lives a lot, it’s tough to bond with a different one.
In this realm, a Christ Embassy person can be unequally yoked with a Deeper Lifer. They’re both Christians; born-again, spirit filled but mental orientation would cause spiritual differences. Both persons may even attend the same Church, but one listens to messages, read books and the other only Sunday sermon.
I’ve had many counsellees bond in 2 out of 3 levels. But instead of packing out, there’s remedy. Later, read COOK THAT FROG, GENTLY, WHEN SHOULD I WALK OUT FROM A RELATIONSHIP and others.
I know only one perfect boo/bae. He is Jesus. It’s either you find Him in heaven or in those carrying Him. Yes, it’s your relationship with Jesus that makes your other relationship(s) sweet. Can I lead you to Him? Say; Jesus, I confess my sin and accept your love, forgiveness, salvation and Lordship. If you said that prayer sincerely, you’ve become a Christian; born again. Welcome to God’s family. Contact us. Find a Bible and a church.
My name is Earl, and I am Alright. It’s been great having you follow all these tweets/posts. You always rock me. Counseling at the #AlrightsPassion is free courtesy of our financial partners and you can join them. Freely WhatsApp 08125086798 earlalright@gmail.com
May my God bless your romantic/love life and give you grace, wisdom and strength for it. May God produce in, through and for you all you need for singleness, relationship and marriage. May you enjoy every blessing God has given the world in and through Christ, in Jesus name. #PrayingTuesday
Join us again on the #AlrightsPassion every Tuesday, 6pm WAT. It always gets better.
Read
* 3 SIMPLE STEPS IN CHOOSING A SPOUSE .
* CAN CHRISTIAN SINGLES ROMANCE?
* Leading Your Emotions
* WHEN SHOULD I WALK OUT FORM A RELATIONSHIP?
* COOK THAT FROG GENTLY
But it’s impossible for people to master their sexuality and receive healing when their mindset is wrong. Breaking up is never easy but I have to go…. Knowing you
, knowing me it’s the best I can do. –ABBA
The song by ABBA seems so true to many young people who claim to love their partner but can’t continue with them. It’s like being attracted to a person but unable to bond with them because of one or many factors.
My name is Earl, and I am Alright. Welcome to the #AlrightsPassion Tuesdays’ Social Media Hang Out with me, #EarlAlright. Every Tuesday is the #AlrightsPassion #PrayingTuesday when our counselors and partners pray for your love life.
The Alright’s Passion MISSION is helping teens, singles and married with sex and relationship issues through diverse means. And our VISION is providing Christian counseling for teens, singles and married on sex and relationship.
I agree with E.W. Kenyon that "Man is a spirit, he has a soul, and lives in a physical body". It’s more correct than just say that we are tripartite (3-in-1); spirit, soul and body. This is because when a person dies, we say s/he is gone even when the body is present. But for the purposes of today’s gist, allow me, to treat man as 3-in-1.
Therefore, for us to bond completely, romantically with another person, it has to be in body, soul and spirit.
Mind you, I said TO BOND, not TO BECOME ONE (Genesis 2:24), because we can never be one spirit with another person (see 1Corinthians 6:16-17). To become one spirit with another person will imply marriage after death and the Bible doesn’t agree with such theology. In fact, death brings to end, the contract of marriage (See 1Corinthians 7).
To clear your doubt about the meaning of romance, see later CAN CHRISTIAN SINGLES ROMANCE?
Romance doesn’t mean to be sexually involved with the person. It is to express “hormonal love”. The first level of romantic bonding is PHYSICAL, which is physical, sexual/chemical attraction. In this realm, love at first sight is true and possible. You see the person and whoops, you’re swept off romantically.
The song with the lyrics “it’s amazing how you knock me off my feet” becomes so true and real. You love what you see. Being physically attracted and attractive to your romantic partner is essential for a relationship to last long.
Have you realized that nobody married an “ugly” person in the Bible? because they all married their physical taste. It was only Jacob that had an “ugly” babe (in his eyes) forced down his throat. See Genesis 29:16-17, 22-27.
In the realm of physical attraction, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, not in the eyes of friends, family or public. In this realm, "Lekpa" meaning Slim could be gold and "Orobo" meaning "Fat" could be diamond.
Counselors insist that you must find your partner physically and sexually attractive to enjoy the relationship. Not like every time o. But you should from time to time feel tempted to want sex with your partner because of his/her looks.
If she/he isn’t fine, you’ll lose boldness to walk with her, use her face as DP or have a photo of her on your desk. As it applies to ladies, so also it is for men. I remember mum saying l love my babe because of her vital statistics. Before nkor?
The second level of Romantic Bonding is SOULISH; mentally/intellectually, emotionally and “purposely”. Remember the soul, psychology says, is made up of the mind (seat of logic), will (seat of passion) and emotions (seat of feelings). It is actually in this 2nd level and also in the 3rd that most singles have tough issues to settle with.
There are people who easily bond physically but who feel that your IQ is just too low for them. So sorry, I am even one; most professionals like lawyers, doctors and the like usually have this complains.
People who read a lot or are well exposed usually face this trauma and depression too; partners not matching up. Your vocabulary and ascent is very, very important to them. The rule of always have something intelligent to contribute applies. The best way to match-up with them is read wide and expose yourself by travelling and meeting people. I’ve met 2 girls who find boys that don’t like and can’t discuss football unattractive. To them, I’m ugly. ***Crying...
Beyond IQ, every person and organization is now also concerned about your emotional intelligence. This is my major concern too.
How much do you lead your emotions? Do you get angry easily? Easily cry? Easily get depressed? Do you easily fall in and out of love with people? Can you hold an argument without making it a fight? Do you know the deference between feelings and logic? Do you know how to express or hide the appropriate or wrong feeling?
Some people bond easily physically and intellectually but usually find emotional bonding a hell. Why? Because a party is yet to let go of the past or the other allows feelings supersede logic. Unbalanced Jealousy, low self-esteem, anger are examples of feelings that could ruin a beautiful relationship.
Some people just find it so easy to crush on people even when in a relationship and it’s not nymphomania or satyriasis.
Apart from reading LEADING YOUR EMOTIONS later, you’ll need to go get books on Emotional Intelligence.
Bonding of passion, drives and purpose is another realm of romantic bonding under this SOULISH level. Some people’s will is so rude, not because they’re choleric. And others are so slow not that they’re phlegmatic. It’s in this realm that pastors, counselors and friends ask if you share the same dreams and purpose with him/her.
So, in the SOULISH realm, bonding has to be intellectual, emotional and passionate.
The last, but definitely not the least of romantic bonding is in the level of the spirit. Remember that I’ve established that you can’t be one spirit with any person but only with God. See 1Corinthians 6:16-17
Contrary to popular beliefs, sex doesn’t bond/tie spirits but bodies. Thank God for oxytocin! Sex can’t even bond souls but can give room for soul ties. The more time you spend with the person, the closer you become. You may want to see some Scriptural references: 1Corinthians 15:13, Psalm 1:1-3, Proverbs 1:10, Matthew 16:6-12.
However, religious orientation and affiliations makes it easier to bond with another in the soul realm. That’s why it’s easier to talk about God with someone of your church than any other person who although is a Christian, is not a member of your Church. And because our religious affiliations determine our lives a lot, it’s tough to bond with a different one.
In this realm, a Christ Embassy person can be unequally yoked with a Deeper Lifer. They’re both Christians; born-again, spirit filled but mental orientation would cause spiritual differences. Both persons may even attend the same Church, but one listens to messages, read books and the other only Sunday sermon.
I’ve had many counsellees bond in 2 out of 3 levels. But instead of packing out, there’s remedy. Later, read COOK THAT FROG, GENTLY, WHEN SHOULD I WALK OUT FROM A RELATIONSHIP and others.
I know only one perfect boo/bae. He is Jesus. It’s either you find Him in heaven or in those carrying Him. Yes, it’s your relationship with Jesus that makes your other relationship(s) sweet. Can I lead you to Him? Say; Jesus, I confess my sin and accept your love, forgiveness, salvation and Lordship. If you said that prayer sincerely, you’ve become a Christian; born again. Welcome to God’s family. Contact us. Find a Bible and a church.
My name is Earl, and I am Alright. It’s been great having you follow all these tweets/posts. You always rock me. Counseling at the #AlrightsPassion is free courtesy of our financial partners and you can join them. Freely WhatsApp 08125086798 earlalright@gmail.com
May my God bless your romantic/love life and give you grace, wisdom and strength for it. May God produce in, through and for you all you need for singleness, relationship and marriage. May you enjoy every blessing God has given the world in and through Christ, in Jesus name. #PrayingTuesday
Join us again on the #AlrightsPassion every Tuesday, 6pm WAT. It always gets better.
Read
* 3 SIMPLE STEPS IN CHOOSING A SPOUSE .
* CAN CHRISTIAN SINGLES ROMANCE?
* Leading Your Emotions
* WHEN SHOULD I WALK OUT FORM A RELATIONSHIP?
* COOK THAT FROG GENTLY
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